Co-Parenting Support: Keeping You Focused on What’s Important

Serving Your Entire Family’s Best Interests

During the challenging process of divorce, it is unfortunately common for people to lose sight of what is truly important to them: their children. However, I firmly believe that when individuals place their children at the center of their decision-making, they are more likely to make choices that will ultimately serve everyone’s best interests in the long run. Regardless of one’s marital status, children require the same fundamental support from their parents – emotional, mental, and physical – in order to grow and thrive into adulthood. It is crucial for co-parents to find a way to work together, even amidst the difficulties of divorce, to continuously meet their children’s ongoing and evolving needs.

While your marital relationship may be coming to an end, your role as parents will endure indefinitely. It is essential to remember that the legacy you leave behind for your children will be shaped by the decisions you make during this tumultuous time. Consider what kind of legacy you want to create. By making conscious choices now, you possess the power to have a direct and lasting impact on whether that legacy will be positive or negative for your children.

My Promise to You

  • I will help you restructure your family in a way that promotes cooperation and stability.
  • I will work with you to identify potential sources of conflict and come up with solutions to avoid future disputes.
  • I will teach you how to put your children in the center of your decision making and not in the middle of your disputes.
  • I will provide you with communication tools to enable you to clearly communicate with your co-parent and avoid the conflict that arises with provocative language.
  • I will work with you to create two homes where your children can equally thrive.

Why First Steps Divorce for Co-Parenting Support

My co-parenting relationship was incredibly difficult in the years following my divorce and it was only with hindsight that I saw the damage that the conflict caused my three boys. I knew that one thing that was really important to me was to help parents learn what their kids need from them during and after the divorce. I wanted to help parents manage their emotions so they could show up for their kids in the best way possible. Recognizing the role that conflict plays in co-parenting relationships, I have spent many training hours learning skills and tools to minimize and de-escalate conflict. I understand the need to move beyond traditional parenting plans and towards creating holistic plans that address the growing and ever-changing needs of children. And as part of the Co-Parenting Specialist Certification Training team, I am able to stay at the forefront of the field while working collaboratively with the team to ensure our training is relevant and effective in helping to bring the voices of the children into the divorce process.

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Co-Parenting Coaching

As a Co-Parenting Coach I assist separating and divorced parents develop and maintain a positive and effective co-parenting relationship for the benefit of their children. My role is to help you navigate the challenges and complexities of co-parenting by providing guidance, support, and practical tools to help you, as parents, give your children what they need to grow and thrive. Whether you are married, separated or divorced, your children still need the same things from you, and we will work together to figure out how to meet their needs.

I work with one or both parents, either together or separately. I work together to establish healthy communication, manage conflict and create strategies for addressing issues like managing the time-share between houses, handling holidays and special occasions, addressing the changing needs of the children. My goal is to help you restructure your family in a way that you can all thrive.

As your Co-Parenting Coach, I will help you prioritize the best interests of your children and encourage you to work collaboratively to find and work toward common goals for your children. What is the divorce story you want your children to tell when they’re adults? Let’s work together to make it a positive one!

Benefits of working with First Steps Divorce as Your Co-Parenting Coach

Improved Communication
A co-parenting coach will help improve communication between co-parents by providing guidance on effective communication strategies, teach conflict resolution skills, and facilitate productive conversations. Better communication can lead to smoother co-parenting dynamics and reduced conflict.
Conflict Resolution
Co-parenting coaches are skilled at assisting parents in resolving conflicts and finding mutually agreeable solutions. They will help you identify the underlying causes of disputes, develop strategies for managing disagreements, and establish effective problem- solving techniques. This can reduce tension and create a more harmonious co-parenting environment which will ultimately benefit your children.
Co-Parenting Plan Development
Co-parenting coaches will assist in creating comprehensive co-parenting plans that outline schedules, routines, and decision-making processes. They will help you develop a plan that focuses on the best interests of your children, ensuring their emotional and physical well-being, and continuing to provide them with the support they need while living in two homes.
Parenting Support and Education
Co-parenting coaches often provide valuable parenting support and education. They will offer guidance on effective parenting techniques, provide resources for handling specific challenges, and offer insights into child development and behavioral issues. This support will empower co-parents to make informed decisions and enhance their parenting skills.
Emotional Support
Going through a separation or divorce can be emotionally challenging for both parents. A co-parenting coach will provide emotional support and serve as a neutral sounding board. They will help you navigate the emotional ups and downs of co-parenting, provide validation, and offer strategies for self-care and stress management.
Accountability and Consistency
Co-parenting coaches will help hold parents accountable for their commitments and encourage consistency in co-parenting practices. They will help establish routines, guidelines, and expectations to create stability for the children. This can lead to a more predictable and secure environment for everyone involved.
Focus on the Children’s Well-Being
Co-parenting coaches prioritize the best interests of the children. They will help parents shift their focus away from personal conflicts and towards the needs of the children. By promoting cooperation and collaboration, they encourage parents to create a supportive and nurturing environment that fosters the healthy development of their children.

Parenting Plans

Now that you and your spouse have decided to separate or divorce, your relationship has changed from that of a married couple to that of partners in the business of raising your children. As with any successful business, it’s critical to develop a plan that provides details around how the business will operate. A failure to plan is a plan to fail!

I work with you to create a detailed, child-centered parenting plan that outlines the responsibilities and expectations for both parents. This plan will provide a roadmap for raising your children in a healthy and supportive environment. Remember, your children need the same thing from you whether you are parenting under one roof or two.

When going through a separation or divorce there are a lot of decisions that need to be made, some of which you may disagree on. The one thing most parents can agree on is the love they have for their children and that they want them to grow up happy and healthy. Crafting a detailed parenting plan will help you avoid the unnecessary conflict that can arise when co-parenting. It will also address how you will resolve issues when you’re not in agreement so you can prevent any future litigation. It is not the divorce that negatively impacts children, it is the conflict that they experience between their parents.

Benefits of Creating a Child-Centered Parenting Plan with First Steps Divorce

Child’s Well-Being
A child-centered parenting plan prioritizes the well-being and needs of the child, ensuring that their best interests are at the forefront of decision making.
Stability and Consistency
A child-centered parenting plan provides stability and consistency for the child, reducing the impact of the divorce on their daily life.
Better Communication
A child-centered parenting plan promotes better communication between parents, reducing misunderstandings and conflicts.
Reduced Conflict
A child-centered parenting plan can help reduce conflict between parents, making it easier for them to co-parent effectively.
Encourages Positive Relationship
A child-centered parenting plan can help promote positive relationships between parents, reducing the likelihood of future conflicts and making it easier for them to co-parent effectively.
Supports Child’s Development:
A child-centered parenting plan can support the child’s development and provide them with the stability and security they need during a difficult time.
Promotes Shared Parenting

A child-centered parenting plan can promote shared parenting, allowing both parents to have a meaningful relationship with their child and encouraging cooperation between them.

Improved Adaptability

A child-centered parenting plan can help the child adapt to the changes brought on by the divorce, reducing the impact on their mental and emotional health.

Encourages Responsible Parenting
A child-centered parenting plan encourages responsible parenting by both parents, ensuring that the child receives the support and care they need.
Better Outcome
By creating a child-centered parenting plan, parents can achieve a better outcome for their family and move forward with confidence, knowing that they have taken the necessary steps to ensure a positive future for their child.

Co-Parenting Communication

The issue that lands most co-parents down the conflict path, is communication, or more specifically, the inability to communicate in a succinct, non-confrontative way. Now that you and your co-parent are no longer married, you need to view your relationship as being business partners in the business of raising your children together. It’s important that you adopt the same communication strategies that you would use with colleagues, teachers and other individuals outside of your family, when communicating with your co-parent.

I can work with you, or you and your co-parent, and educate you on how to construct written or verbal communication to eliminate judgment, admonishment, opinions or emotions – all things that create conflict. I will teach you to create communication that focuses on conveying factual information that supports the needs of your child. We will also work together to understand what communication needs to be responded to and what doesn’t need a response.

Additionally, I can coach you through communication strategies while going through the mediation or litigation process, so your interactions with your co-parent don’t negatively impact your negotiations or any legal proceedings.

Benefits of working with First Steps Divorce for Your Co-Parenting Communication Support

Teaching Communication Skills
A co-parenting coach will provide specific guidance on essential communication skills. This includes active listening, which involves fully focusing on and understanding what the other person is saying without interrupting or formulating a response. Coaches will help co-parents learn to validate each others feelings and perspectives, fostering a more empathetic and supportive environment.
Effective Expression of Needs and Concerns
Co-parenting coaches will teach parents how to express their needs, concerns, and boundaries in a clear and assertive manner. This helps co-parents communicate their expectations, preferences, and goals effectively. By learning to express themselves constructively, parents can avoid misunderstandings and reduce the likelihood of conflicts arising.
Ground Rules and Guidelines:


Co-parenting coaches will establish ground rules for discussions between co-parents. These guidelines may include using respectful language, maintaining a calm tone, and refraining from personal attacks. By setting clear expectations, coaches help create an environment conducive to productive communication.

Conflict Resolution Techniques
Co-parenting coaches are skilled at teaching conflict resolution techniques that can be employed during conversations. They will introduce strategies such as “I” statements, where individuals express their feelings and needs without blaming the other person. Coaches can also teach negotiation and compromise skills, helping parents find mutually beneficial solutions to conflicts.
Reframing and Perspective-Taking
Coaches often employ techniques that encourage co-parents to reframe their perspectives and consider alternative viewpoints. They will help parents understand how their actions or words may be interpreted by the other person, fostering empathy and understanding.
Managing Emotions
Emotional management is vital in productive conversations. Co-parenting coaches will teach parents strategies for managing their emotions during discussions, such as taking breaks when tensions rise, using relaxation techniques, or employing active listening skills to validate each other’s emotions. By helping parents regulate their emotions, coaches create a conducive environment for effective communication.
Problem-Solving Techniques
Co-parenting coaches will guide parents in utilizing problem-solving techniques during conversations. They will teach structured approaches, such as brainstorming ideas, evaluating options, and reaching mutually agreeable solutions. By providing tools for collaborative problem-solving, coaches empower co-parents to work together in finding resolutions.
Non-defensive Communication
Co-parenting coaches will assist in developing non-defensive communication skills. This involves avoiding defensiveness, blame, and criticism during conversations. Coaches will help parents understand the impact of defensive responses and encourage them to focus on problem-solving and cooperation instead.

Investment for Co-Parenting Support

The investment for co-parenting support varies depending on your goals and needs. Please contact me for a consultation and a custom quote for your situation.

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